Rather than heading straight for the obvious, explore every inch of your lover’s body along the way. Many people forget that there are erogenous zones around the body from head to toe (literally), but focussing on these areas before hitting the bullseye will have your partner begging for more! Contrary to popular belief, these sweet spots are almost identical for both men and women. Touch your lover in all the right places…

Men and Women Erogenous ZonesLIPS

Since kissing is often the very first point of contact before sex, focussing on your partner’s lips for a little longer will ensure they make the association and get their mind wandering!

For him: Keep it wet! Be a good sport and play a little tongue tennis, and suck his lips too.

For her: Gently does it – caress and massage her lips with yours, keeping them firm.


Stimulating the neck can be great way to get us pumped for sexual activity!

For him: Alternate between kisses on the neck and gentle nibbles with your teeth – the contrast is extremely arousing.

For her: Women like a little roughness here too. Nibble down the length of her neck.


The nipples are full of nerve endings so are one of the most sensitive areas on the body and when stimulated, directly cause sexual arousal.

For him: This area tends to be forgotten for men, but for some it’s just as sensitive as it is for women. Trace the area around them with your finger and gently kiss them.

For her: Some women find their nipples more sensitive than others – start light and figure out what she likes.


There are millions of nerve endings on the buttocks and most people love the sensation of having this area touched. Be playful!

For him: Massaging his lower back and buttocks will really get him in the mood.

For her: Give it a squeeze whilst she’s giving you attention to show her you’re enjoying it.


A foot massage is a great way to get your partner in the mood, would you believe? The skin on the feet is extremely responsive to touch.

For him: Suck his (clean) toes! He will instantly associate it with oral sex – it will drive him wild!

For her: Tickle, kiss and gently pinch the skin on her feet and toes or rub them with massage gel s


Hate to state the obvious, but the erogenous zones in this area differs for men and women. The whole of the pelvic region, including the inner thigh, is really sensitive and gives intense sensations when stimulated, but there are particular areas for men and women that really set off fireworks!

For him: Most men love gentle attention on their testicles such as tickling or very gently sucking. This is too sensitive for some men, though, so approach carefully.

For her: The clitoris is the main area sexual pleasure for a woman. It’s the most sensitive and responsive area on the female body. Focusing on this area with your fingers or tongue will ensure she’d putty in your hands.


The male and female genitals are the centre of sexual activity and the mechanisms of penetrative sex. After teasing your way around their body and erogenous zones, your partner will be more than ready for some attention here!

For him: The most sensitive area of the penis is the head; most men will get amazing sensations from gentle stimulation here. The shaft of the penis can be handled more firmly.

For her: The vagina isn’t the most sensitive area for a woman, but stimulation of the cervix, at the top of the vagina feels great for her. This can be during foreplay with the fingers but can also be reached by the penis in sexual intercourse.

Don’t miss out these intimate areas – exploring your partner’s body is where the magic really happens. By taking the time to discover what turns each other on, you and your lover will feel closer and more intimate. Never underestimate the power of the mind; focussing on these areas will cause connections to be made within the brain which will trigger sexual arousal. Even the humble kiss can send sparks flying!