If you think that owning lingerie is pointless (it’s only on for a few seconds after all, right?) or not something that you should buy until you’ve reached a certain weight loss goal or stop having kids, think again. No matter what your excuse is, I will tell you that you should buy lingerie that fits you and that you love in your current stage of life.

Lingerie is an investment in your relationship

Any time you pay for date night, attend a marriage conference or workshop, or buy something that will help bring you and your spouse closer together (a relationship book, tools needed for a hobby, or something to benefit your sex life), you are investing in your relationship. You are saying ‘this matters to me and I want to work to make it the best that it can be’. That investment is important if you are working toward a long lasting marriage and it is one that is definitely worth making!

Wearing lingerie can increase your libido and your desire for intimacy and sex.

New lingerie can bring something new and exciting to your marriage

After you’ve been married for a while, it can be easy to fall into a routine. Date night becomes routine, your conversations become routine and your intimacy becomes routine. Routine can be a good thing and there’s nothing bad about it, but having something new that brings novelty to your relationship, even if it’s just switching up the restaurant you eat at for date night, has been shown to help keep the spark alive and keep marriages strong. Even if you only pull your lingerie out once a month or a few times a year, having something that’s a new color or style will spice things up a bit!

Purchase new lingerie for an anniversary, birthday, gift or special occasion

This is reasons that people use to get something new and lacy most often. Lingerie makes a fun gift for you or your spouse!

Put something lacy on every night when you’re getting ready for bed

Instead of changing into pajamas at the end of the day, consider putting on something sexy every night for the time when they are getting ready for bed, reading, or whatever they do as part of their bedtime routine. Making that change doesn’t mean that they have to be intimate every single night, but it does change the atmosphere around bedtime and can increase the intimacy in your marriage