Sometimes, if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.

But what if you’re not sure how to do “it” right?

This masturbation guide will cover everything you need to know so you can explore your body with confidence and find a technique that works best for you.

1. SET THE MOOD

The mood for your masturbation sessions doesn’t need to be candlelight and silk sheets (unless you want it to be). It can be anywhere that makes you comfortable – a quiet room, in a bubble bath with the door locked, on the living room sofa, wherever! Just make sure it’s a place you can relax, get frisky, and give yourself some love.

NOTE: Whether you’re alone or not is up to you. Having a partner watch or masturbating alongside them can be a real turn on for some people. If you like it, go with it!

2. TRY EROTIC BOOKS

On the note of mood setting, sometimes just the location isn’t enough, and we need extra stimuli to get things going (and keep them going). 

Erotic books are great for stoking the fires and getting your mind revved up (because remember, the brain is the biggest sex organ and it needs to be fed as much as the body).

3. TRY AUDIOBOOKS

If you don’t want to hold a paper book (so you can keep your hands free to play WHILE you indulge in the erotic word), audiobooks are a great alternative.

I would suggest getting into the plot well beforehand so you know which juicy parts you want to skip to when you need them – or have several familiar novels on standby (your erotic audio buffet as it were).

4. TRY SOME VISUAL AIDS

There’s enough porn out there to sink the Earth a hundred times over – and satisfy whatever niche you’re into. Look up, bookmark, and/or download you’re favorites (careful of viruses).

FUN EXTRA: Try syncing your movements with whatever the actors are doing.

And, since we’re talking about visuals, why not try masturbating in front of a mirror? It might be a bigger turn on than you realize.

5. TRY FANTASIZING

Maybe you don’t need porn or erotic books. Maybe your mind is creative enough that YOU are your own entertainment! Close your eyes and let your mind go where it wants.

And don’t be ashamed if it gets kinky or weird! You’re safe inside your own brain and no one has to know, *wink.

You can also use all that porn and erotic stories to help beef up your fantasies.

6. TRY A SLOWER PACE

Yes, there is such a thing as a masturbation quickie – and there’s nothing wrong with them. However, if you’re needing something more fulfilling, you’ll have to put in the time.

This means NOT diving into any hardcore stroking or pumping until enough blood had reached the necessary areas.

So, if you have the time, extend your masturbation and draw out the experience.

7. TRY A LIGHT TOUCH TO START

Some erogenous zones (particularly the clit) can be really sensitive and need to be warmed up before you go in with harder pressure. If you’re finding it harder to build that blissful tension, dial it back and go in with light caresses and strokes.

8. TRY PLAYING WITH THE U-SPOT

Diagram of the Vulva

The U-spot is the area around the urethra, and like the rest of the vagina, it’s surrounded with nerve endings.

The difference is that you don’t need to use hard pressure with this spot.

A gentle touch can feel quite pleasant for some ladies and can be a nice addition to your masturbation warm-up.

9. TRY OVER THE UNDERWEAR

There are some ladies that are sensitive in general and no amount of build-up helps – or maybe your body has just decided it’s going to be that way for a few days. If that’s the case, try your normal moves over your underwear or with a piece of fabric (like a towel) in between your body and the action.

NOTE: This is also useful if you want to try sex toys, but the vibrations are too much for you.

10. TRY EROGENOUS ZONES

Diagram of the erogenous zones

All this advice also applies to things OTHER than your vagina.

We like it when our partners pay attention to many parts of our body, so why should we ignore them when we’re taking charge of our own pleasure? Try playing with your…

  • Breasts
  • Nipples
  • Lips
  • Inner thighs 
  • Anywhere that makes you happy

11. TRY DIFFERENT POSITIONS

You might have your “go-to” position, which is fine, but don’t be afraid to try other things – you might find a new position that knocks your socks off. Also, keep in mind that different positions might garner different sensations or work better with different techniques.

  • Lay on your back in spread eagle position
  • Alternatively, bend your knees as you open your legs
  • Pull your knees into your chest
  • Turn on your side
  • Lay on your stomach
  • Sit on a chair or other piece of furniture
  • Get on your hands and knees
  • Get into a squat

I’m also sure that any yoga students could add MANY more ideas to this list.

12. TRY PILLOW TOWEL HUMPING

If you’re going to be on your stomach, you can try using a pillow or rolled up towel in between your legs. This gives you something firm to press up against and get the necessary pressure and friction to climax. It’s also good for wedging sex toys into.