Honeymoon is a time for you to connect with your better half. Its important to understand what they love. What follows isn’t really a how-to. It’s more of a woman’s why-yes.

1. Making Out

Kissing, frenching, snogging, sucking face—the prime mover of the sex world. It can make or break the chances of things going further. Nothing is a bigger turnoff than kissing someone who is haphazard, sloppily drunk, or or who is blind to body language. Strike a balance with the tongue: No tongue at all feels like junior high, too much tongue feels like tenth grade. What’s the right amount? If you have to ask…. Oh, and please close your eyes.

2. Nibbling

Want to get your woman wet and ready? Start up top. Sucking and (lightly, for most) biting the neck and ear feels incredible, as long as you don’t linger too long. You want your lady to look like she’s been with a master lover, not an extra from True Blood.

3. The Look in His Eye

Brutally hot. Some women complain about a guy who is horny all the time, but trust me when I tell you that the opposite is way worse. No one likes a meek lover. And eye contact during the act is always a good idea.

4. Undressing Slowly

When a woman is aroused, she’s confident about the way she looks, and confidence is an attractive trait in a partner. When we’re secure enough to undress piece by teasing piece, the hot factor increases exponentially.

5. The Rule of the Nipple

Women have tits, and we like you to play with them, suck on them and maybe even tease them with your teeth. Our nipples are also often very sensitive, as are the areolae. No twisting, please —unless we ask for it.

6. Foreplay. Lots of Foreplay

We put as much emphasis on the appetizer as we do on the entrée. Let us luxuriate in physical attention all over our bodies, and we’ll lavish that attention back (that’s right, you gotta give it away to get it). So get exploring.

7. Worship of the Clit

Yes, please. A very large number of women do not get vaginal orgasms, no matter how rocking their men are, nor how hard they work. So a man who enthusiastically and expertly manipulates the clitoris will achieve the best of results. And for the men out there who can’t find it: Google Maps.

8. Seeing Your Dude Get Aroused

We know that most men can get hard sitting on their asses doing nothing, but knowing that you caused that response in him is one of the more exhilarating and sexy feelings a woman can experience.

9. Being Naked with Your Dude

As scary as this can be (for some people), there’s something highly erotic about simply being unclothed and vulnerable.

10. Penetration

An entirely personal sensation: a man is inside you, and you feel close to him. Nothing feels better than this. Ever.

11. Sweat

No girl wants some random at the gym to sweat all over her, no matter how cute he may be. But to see, feel, and even taste a man’s sweat as he gets worked up in bed can be sublime.

12. Whispering

Loud, graphic sex talk can be fun, but impassioned whispers in your ear as he takes you really push women over the edge. Just make sure you don’t say something that ruins the mood, like, “You really look like your mom right now.”